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Grandma Knows Best
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Community Care in Toronto: Where Do You Go When You Actually Need Help?
I survived homelessness while writing my PhD at the University of Toronto. This is a Black-centred, practical guide to finding real mental health, food and housing support in Toronto — with fewer dead ends.
12 hours ago4 min read


Is a Diagnosis as Innocent as It Appears?
What happens when medicine names what is wrong with us—and we believe it? A diagnosis can save your life. It can also change it. Sometimes before the treatment has even begun. I have been thinking about diagnosis lately—not one diagnosis in particular, but the extraordinary authority contained in the act itself. You walk into a room with symptoms. You leave with a name. Cancer. Depression. Dementia. Diabetes. Anxiety. An autoimmune disorder. Before the diagnosis, there may ha
7 days ago6 min read


Grief Brings Visitors—Not All of Them Come to Mourn
Grief can leave the door open long after visitors arrive. Carla reflects on loss, vulnerability and the painful difference between people who come to care and those who come to take.
Aug 76 min read


Gratitude Is Not a Gag Order—But It Gagged Me Shut
*She waited her turn, careful not to bring the room down, while silence filled every empty chair.* An open letter about gratitude and grief—and what happens when we make our pain easier for everyone else to bear. I was told to be grateful because things could have been worse. They were right: things could have been worse. But gratitude did not make what happened acceptable. Sometimes it simply helped me swallow the scream. When my son died, I needed somewhere to take my grief
Jul 305 min read


Healing from Racial Trauma: A Path to Racial Trauma Recovery Canada
Racial trauma is often carried quietly. This reflection explores how racism affects mental health in Canada and why healing requires culturally grounded care, community and truth.
Feb 244 min read


Spotlight: A Culturally Tailored Mental Health Checklist for Black Women & Caregivers
Spotlight: A Culturally Tailored Mental Health Checklist for Black Women & Caregivers Lately, I have been on a sabbatical. Taking stock. Healing. Resting. Following my own good advice. Because if Grandma Knows Best is going to be more than a saying—if it’s going to be a sanctuary—then I have to live what I offer: slow down, listen inward, and return to what is true. And what has always been true for many of us is this: our mental health doesn’t live in isolation. It lives in
Feb 234 min read
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