Can Real Men Wear Skirts? A Bold Look at Gender Norms and Masculinity

Skirts aren't scary systems, are.

From kilts to runways, from playgrounds to boardrooms, the question "Can real men wear skirts?" seems at once ridiculous and necessary. It may appear superficial to some, a question of fashion or preference. But underneath lies something much deeper: skirts on men become a lens for exploring gender norms, masculinity, power, safety, childhood development, and cultural conditioning.

This is not just about fabric. It’s about fear. About boundaries. About who gets to move through the world freely and who pays the price for visibility.

Let’s begin with the children. If your son asked to wear a skirt to school, would it be seen as "dressing up" or a phase? Would you gently steer him away, waiting for him to "get over it"? And what exactly is the "it" he’s expected to grow out of? Self-expression? Softness? The refusal to perform masculinity on demand? Too often, boys are socialized to equate tenderness with weakness and non-conformity with shame. This is where the conditioning begins.

The messaging isn’t subtle: girls can wear pants, but boys in skirts are "asking for it" — ridicule, exclusion, or worse. Even in adult spaces, the uniform of power remains tailored: suits, ties, hard lines. Would a man feel safe enough — let alone respected — if he wore a skirt into a courtroom? A job interview? A classroom?

What I’m really asking when we ask if men can wear skirts is: who controls the narrative of gender? Why is femininity still feared, policed, or used as a weapon — especially against those who aren’t women?

There is also the quieter violence of this question: the slippery slope logic that says, "If we let boys wear skirts, what’s next?" And beneath that: the old, aching fear that queerness, softness, or non-conformity might be contagious — or worse, celebrated. That our sons might be "mistaken" for something other than dominant.

But what if we flipped the script? What if we saw our sons and grandsons not as future breadwinners, but as whole people — with emotional range, aesthetic preferences, and the right to define themselves without punishment? What if skirts weren’t a threat to masculinity, but a challenge to a version of masculinity that no longer serves us?

As grandmothers, parents, and community members, we are not just raising children. We’re shaping the world they’ll inherit. Worlds where freedom of expression should not be a luxury, but a norm. Where safety doesn’t depend on conformity. And where gender isn’t a prison, but a playground.

So yes, I have concluded that this conversation is worth having. And maybe the question isn’t, "Can real men wear skirts?" but rather, "Can we imagine a world where that question no longer needs to be asked?"

Would you wear it?

Would you protect someone who did?

Would you let your grandson?

If those questions feel unsettling — maybe that’s exactly why we need to ask them.